when you can’t make changes fast enough

Written by Iris Barzen

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I used to feel this glaring gap between where I was and where I wanted to be with my life. When we discover the self-improvement track, I guess we all start out with some sort of vision board and a determination to “create your ideal life”.

All over sudden you realize that you really do have a choice as to what you want to do with your life. Overnight you start seeing all the things you’d like to change.

It’s overwhelming.

So naturally you want to do it all at once. Because:

How could you be content starting with the tiny change of, say, a three minute meditation habit when your house is a mess, you haven’t worked out in… a while AND you find that you actually don’t like your career?

Your life might look nothing like your ideal life, so naturally we can’t make changes fast enough.

I’ve been on the self-improvement track for four years now. In the beginning I used a sort of throw-and-see-what-sticks approach to change. I tried many different things and went between phases of action and phases of being up in my head trying to figure it all out.

Recently though I’ve had this realization: What if the only thing that matters is now? I didn’t realize it, but I had been living in the future a lot. Maybe because I thought in order to race to my future, I needed to keep my head there, too.

But where could those big plans be actualized? Only in the present. 

 

Let that one drop in for a moment: The only place your vision is going to be created is now, as in today.*

*Thanks, Captain Obvious.

That doesn’t have to be a mortifying thought at all.

It’s liberating: You actually don’t need to have a perfect plan to make your dreams real. You only need to know the step right in front of you, and I’ve found with my clients that people usually have a good gut feeling about what the simple next step needs to be.

This is day two  of the week long writing challenge.

Two quotes in my journal

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow…

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Burnout is not cool.

When I entered the world of personal development, it got clear pretty quickly that working yourself into the ground is expected. You can wear burnout as a pledge of honor. “I’m so tired, I got home from work last night and then worked on my business until 2 am. That’s what you have to do.”…

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Tiny Mission: Leave things a little better than you found them

It sounds like such a platitude: “Leave things a little better than you found them”. The idea is to make sure that whether you’re at work or talking to a friend: You do something small to leave the situation a little better than it was when you got there. I do this when I remember. It always…

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